You're mostly speaking greek to me.This is exactly why I dont,and will never have a smart phone.My sons friends showed me how if they talk about a subject the phones would all start sending them related messages.My wife uses some "Alexa" thing for music.Whenever I walk in the room I unplug it.I would be talking to my dogs and this spy box that seemed to be off,would start talking.:Sorry, I didnt understand Beau".I hate technology.
Fair enough. When you look at the internet, what button do you clock? If you use a MAC it is probably Safari, if Windows, you get Edge, formally Internet Explorer. Fire Fox, Brave and Vivaldi are alternates to that and much less intrusive into your business. If you want to try either Brave or Firefox, look them up and they will walk you through the install and allow you to transfer your favorites. Vivaldi is a bit more complex and probably not for you. It is dirt simple when you get it set up, but you may need a 12 year old delinquent to get you up and running.
Duck Duck Go and Start Page will be the easiest to get working for the tech challenged. Type in either click on the result and it should give you the option to set it as your search engine (Also Internet Explorer, or Edge. I don't know what Safari defaults to), these will keep your internet searches and page visits to themselves much better than other things out there. QWANT and MetGer are also search engines with European roots, and the folks across the pond claim to have very strict privacy policies and laws, so they work well at keeping thing to themselves as well.
I won't allow anything Alexa or Siri in the house. I do have a remote for the TV with Alexa, but it has never been connected to the WIFI.
I get your frustration. I keep Lost-Father-In-Laws machine running for him, and he is about as tech savvy as a rock on many things. Step dad lets his Yankee bud mess his computer up and asks me to fix it. I have spent hours repairing things that should never have been messed with. Told him the next time the guy touched it, and I had to fix it, he'd lose everything he has on it. Not exactly true, but it is to that point of doing a reset and starting over. It has been over a year, so he doesn't have problems since retiring, he listened and asks me to do what he needs in the first place, or it is hosed and he won't ask. I won't even attempt to do anything on their I Phones, for the reasons above. I'd screw them up.
I can feel your pain.