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There is the 9000sf in 9mm, but the pistol hasn't been well recieved. If you could find one to handle first to see if it isn't too wide for you, fits your hands well, and is easy for you to rack the slide and manipulate the controls it may be the way to go for you.
I have one in .40 and I like it, but I have long hands. I don't have problems with the slide, safety lever, or mag release. Most opinions on this series of pistols are either love or hate with no middle ground. One of the other problems with it is there is little in the way of accessories for the series. Finding a good holster for it can be a bit of a pain, and I'm pretty sure Beretta is dropping it from their lineup.
The Cougar seems like it would be great for your purposes, but I don't have a lot of experience with shooting one outside of a very short range session once, so I can't really tell you much about it from a first hand perspective. As far as I know, this model is also being dropped for now by BUSA.
If you aren't dead set on 9mm, then there are a lot more options in Beretta's current lineup.
Hope this helps some.
