Of course everybody's different, and unless they start out using .38 Specials preferably wadcutters I wouldn't recommend starting out with .357's out of a short barreled revolver.357 Magnum revolver delivers some of the best performance from a handgun. Its bare-bones design and easy-to-use mechanism make it perfect for beginners.
But the problem is that some people are indeed recoil sensitive no matter how many rounds they shoot. But they'll never know until they fire their first handgun. It makes no sense to start out with the biggest and baddest. Just as it makes no sense to go out and buy the biggest, baddest Harley when you've never even ridden a 5 H.P. mini bike.Carrying a .357mag and having the ability to shoot .38special from it is, in my opinion, you are handicapped. My wife has a Ruger SP-101 that she shoots with full house 158gr JHP's and is incredibly accurate with it. It is her carry weapon, when she carries. She is an average to small woman, but she is not recoil sensitive.