I've been through the same thing on another forum. I guess there are still some people out there who think a woman's place is in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant, or in the bedroom, getting that way. Fortunately, I've found more men who are happy to see more women getting involved in guns and shooting than men who aren't. I'm a S&W fan. ALthough I don't own the 5906, I've heard a lot of good things about it from those who do own one. I think you'd be very happy with it. If you'd like more specific answers, try the smith-wessonforum.com Great bunch of guys and gals.