i have the p95 and feel the same way as you, it is a great gun, but not for CC. after trying many, many smaller sized guns, i chose the glock 26. i put +0 grip extensions on it and it REALLY helps... at first it was "jumpy" like you said, but with a firm grip and the extensions, i am getting used to the added recoil of the smaller gun. the G26 is really starting to grow on me
i tried the bersa 380 and that did not work out for me. i also tired a ruger lcp and talk about snappy. wow. i am just not comfortable with it.