Made my final decision...kinda
Well I am going to the gun show/ swap meet next weekend. I have decided on the Springfield XD 9mm, or the S&W M&P 9mm or the FN FNP-9. OK I guess I really did not decide for sure yet. I have held them all and they all feel great. If I find one real cheap I will probably get that one. Maybe if I can find a slightly used one. If I was going to get a used one of any of those what should I look for? Anything to be cautious of. I wouldn't get one that is too old. Just slightly used. Maybe a trade in.
I like the safety features of the XD and that it is DAO also. I like the reputation of the M&P and the changeable grip strap. I am really intrigued with the FN FNP-9 too though. If I could find the DAO version I think I would get it first. The FN doesn't have as much in the way of safeties, except the de-cocking. Well I will let everyone know how it goes and thanks for any advice already given and to come.