Originally Posted by 2400

You have been given a lot of good ideas. I would add that everyone in the family needs to be the dominant/alpha in lily's world. Don't try to comfort her when she is in this state of mind. I've heard that only teachers her that her behavior is acceptable. It sounds like she is nervous and insecure.
Have you tried taking her for a walk. Your mom might try this before she leaves, this way she won't have so much energy.
You might try a dog trainer that specializes in getting rid of unwanted behavior.
Have you ever seen the show "Dog Whisperer" on National Geographic Channel? I feel he has some good ideas.
As for a electronic collar, I'm not sure it would be the best thing for a dog in her state of mind.
2400's wife.

Originally Posted by tnoisaw

It sounds like you need an ivention with Cesar Millan.
http://www.dogpsychologycenter.com/

Originally Posted by yankeedoodle

Get Cesar Millans book. Has some very good ideas in it and it will show you how to become the Alpha and quit being the Omega.

Have you started watching "Dog Whisperer" on the National Geographic channel, yet?

WM

No, I have no idea when it comes on. Then I need to wrestle the remote from my dad. LOL!

He has a newsletter that comes out every month that is free. I get it. You may want to try that. You can sign up on his web site.

Cool! I think I will. Thanks!

Definitely separation anxiety. Dr. Phil had a show on that topic. Dog would go bonkers when the owner left to go to work, practically destroyed the house during the daytime.

Your dog needs anti anxiety medication, not sedatives. First reduce the emotional stress, and then focus on the training. Think about it...You get stressed over something, and the last thing you need is anyone telling you what to do. Dogs aren't any different in this regard . A calm person or animal is much eaiser to train, and the training will stick much better. Beating, shooting, tying up outside....what does this teach the animal. Not a damn thing. Reduce the anxiety, and then find a training technique that works. There are as many ways to train a dog as there are opinions.