It depends on how much you can afford. Personally I like heavy pistols very much but those cost a lot of money where I live so I stick to cheaper options like Glocks, XDm's etc. Those are proven over time and can't go wrong with them. Regarding the safety issue with Glocks, you have to know when you have a bullet in your chamber, as with every gun. All the rest is dry firing. Glock 19 sounds like what you're looking for.