Well, I guess I'm at a disadvantage here because I'm NOT a small female. I'm a 6'2'' 250 pound guy. But I do have a paralegal in my office who stands almost exactly five feet and weighs 90-ish pounds. She took a beginner course a few months ago, and borrowed my Glock 17 to do it with, and had a ball. I wear a large size glove, and I'm very comfortable with the G17. Some of my friends who wear size XL gloves are less so.
The lady in my office likes 9mm, and examined a Glock 19 while she was taking the course. I would not be surpised to see her turn up with one some day. It might be an attractive choice for you.
Some ranges will rent firearms, and you might try that before you buy one.
I hope this helps.