S&W BG380 with Hornady Critical defense ammo.
Here are a couple of suggestions that you might want to consider; find someone who has a Beretta 92fs compact and check it out I believe it's 8+1 but not sure about it and a little thicker grip is the 92fs Centurian which is a double stack mag. You might also want to check out a Sig P6 it is the smaller single stack, although all of these will be used, they are still really servicable. You may even find one that the owner has had modified with the short reset trigger and, a lighter mainspring, haven't had mine done but it's not too bad as is. Good luck on your search.
S&W BG380 with Hornady Critical defense ammo.
If you can't find a used Sig P6 (or also a Sig P225) to try out/handle (as suggested by SigP229R above), you could always look at the Sig P239 in 9mm. It is also a single-stack 9mm and may fit your hand.
However, the M&P 9c is a good choice if you decide to go that route.
sounds like your wishes gets you a glock 26 or the springfield XD9
the next bigger size would be a
glock 17 generation 4 has interchanable back straps but with your small hand you would probably go with the small backstrap
if you want a lot of bullets then all glocks mentioned above can take the glock clip that holds 30 rounds
How do you plan on carrying this weapon? To a great extent the manner in which you will carry will determine the weapon you will choose.
For ankle carry, for instance, the G19 is not well suited, but the G26 (Glocks) is perfect.
For purse carry you will have greater latitude as there are several purse manufacturers making carry specific models.
I have the Glock 26 on my hip right now in my office as I type. It is not the greatest weapon in the world and I in no way use it as the weapon I compare all others too. My very good friend has the M&P 9c and he shoots it as well as anyone I know. He shoots it better then some of my other buddies shoot tjeir race guns. Throwing out the Kahr was in my opinion silly itis a great gun and they can always have more then one mag. The SR9c is a fine weapon with a very hearty slide release/lock back. Glock is a very well known and very well made weapon, it is not the envy of the gun world and it should not surprise anyone that people would pick another brand over it. Doing as much research as you seem to be doing can get confusing.
If you can't shoot one before you buy it. hold a bunch. see what feels good. can you manually rack the slide? will it fit where you plan to carry it? Is it easy to breakdown and clean...and the reassemble? does it look good to you? is it too heavy?Can I afford this one? Never buy a gun just because it is cheap...If you got all good answers to the gun you are holding right now....what is going to change in 2 weeks? Buy it shoot it enjoy it. Put thos elittle hands of yours to use loading some mags........Its a lot more fun going to the range and shooting then wondering and thinking....you can always start planning your second gun immediately, but at least you will be shooting and gaining persective in the mean time.
im a big guy... but i have small hands..... about the size of my wife hands, she is 5 3... anyway... i really like of my beretta px4 compact 9mm... fits my hand great with the small back strap... very little recoil... something to think about..
I know what you mean about the fast matabolism... I'm not a real big guy either but I love my Sig Sauer P229. It may not be exactly what you are looking for but hold one and see how you like it.
I rented an M&P9c to check it out, and I was very impressed by the sights. I liked them better than my son's G26 or even my SR9c. You would not know it if you haven't shot one, but it could be an important factor for your decision. I also have an M&P9 Pro, and it is very accurate and reliable. I would definitely recommend the M&P9c. Good Luck
The local police use S & W M & P, but in the more potent .40 caliber. The two guns are about the same size and weight; the .40 carries 10 rounds, the 9mm carries 12 rounds.
Surprisingly to me, guns that initially feel awkward don't feel that way after shooting them awhile. So while I still give the advice that you should pick something that feels good in your hand, my experience is that it is not always a good predictor of how well you will shoot it after using it a while.
So I would not automatically discard a gun that does not fit the hands well. If there are enough significant advantages to using the ill-fitting weapon I might try it for a while and see.
I have not traded in any guns lately but when I have I always felt that I did not take too much of a beating (money-wise). And while guns are not cheap and disposable, they are way cheaper than other capital investments. Heck, you can spend nearly $500.00 on a Dyson vacuum cleaner that will only last what? 7 or 10 years? (And you can't trade in your vacuum if you don't like it--you end up giving it to a relative for free.)
So buy something that feels reasonable and use it for 6 months. If you don't like it, I would guess you'd be out $150.00 to $250.00. That's about 8 months worth of lattes at Starbucks.
I am also a very small woman, so I understand where you're coming from. I LOVE my SR9c. I didn't read the last two pages, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this. It's a great gun. It's a good size, without feeling too little. Also, it comes with an extended magazine, which makes it the same size as the SR9. My husband really likes this, because it's too small for him otherwise. Speaking of my husband, he read your post also and recommends you try the Springfield EMP. I can't give you an opinion on this one myself, as I have never used one. Luck.