I am also a very small woman, so I understand where you're coming from. I LOVE my SR9c. I didn't read the last two pages, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this. It's a great gun. It's a good size, without feeling too little. Also, it comes with an extended magazine, which makes it the same size as the SR9. My husband really likes this, because it's too small for him otherwise. Speaking of my husband, he read your post also and recommends you try the Springfield EMP. I can't give you an opinion on this one myself, as I have never used one. Luck.