Read, read, read, and read some more here. If you're a previous shooter, take some time to ease back in. Remember the fundamentals and take your time.It has been over ten years since I've really been around any type of handgun and I'm very uninformed about them in general.
I like the feel of them both and have done a bunch of online research. the points i like about the s&w are the looks and the fact that i can get a thumb safety which seems to make the wife more comfortable and maybe me too.
A good selling point, opinions on the thumb safety vary, I could take it or leave it. If it makes it go easier with the wife, it might be worth it. But if you get the model with the thumb safety, you've go to practice, practice, practice on swiping that thumb safety off while drawing the gun.Again, opinions vary but if I had to have either a thumb safety or a grip safety, I'd go with the grip safety, it gets deactivated just by grabbing the gun.For the xdm i like the looks and feel also and the match grade barrel (more accurate the better right?) but I'm not sure on how helpful or harmful the grip safety would prove to be.
Get the 9mm, from what I hear arthritis rarely gets "better" but often get worse. I find the XDM to be a soft shooter, but the M&P isn't bad either.I guess another concern i had was recoil i know in my heart i want a 40.cal but i have extremely arthritic wrists (wow am i really whining in a gun forum?) and the less they are bent around and banged on the better. i put 5 rounds through a 40 cal compact of some kind and was fine with it but if i wanna practice a lot i think 9mm would be better. I have heard the xdm is one of the softest shooting 40s so i am hoping that transfers down to the 9mm as well.I carry the XDM around just fine, it's all about the holster, belt, and mode of dress.I think i am leaning towards the xdm, thoughts anyone, thanks for reading and sorry its so long a post just excited about getting my new toy.
Also is it reasonably possible to conceal a gun of that size, I'm taking the required safety class for concealed carry permit next month mostly to take any problems out of transporting it around, doubt i will carry it on my person a lot,but, maybe sometimes
I made some more points here : S&W M&P40, Springfield XDM 40 or Glock 22