On another note, I recently passed my NRA Basic Pistol Safety COurse Instructiors Course, and would be happy to teach it to you and your SO if you are near. And no mods this is not a solicitation. I'll do it for cost of materials. I need the experience. So if this will help (and i may still be 3 hours away lol) then the offer is there once i reciev my creds back.
I tend to have smaller hands for a guy, so have some similarity there in what is comfortable to hold. I know of a couple of Kahrs (don't remember models though) in this area, so if that is not far i can give names of some stores.