A 9 mm being the weakest but sharp recoil.
40 S&W will be bigger and "sharper recoil”
45ACP will be more of a push back not sharp at all
You can’t assume that a bigger handgun will soak up the recoil, because the recoil spring may be bigger/small. Also revolvers tend to have a little more recoil. Some guns are better, for the spring reason I stated above. Example the HK USP 45 will have a smaller recoil than the HK USP Compact 45 because of the recoil system in the full size version