i had the same issue with my live-in partner for 2 years now when i talked to her about my recent decision to get a handgun...
a lot of good points were made in this thread and like what most of the guys are saying..
(a) educate her on gun and gun safety
(b) take her out on the range and have her actually shoot a handgun
some tips on the range:
make it fun but all the time safe
shoot a smaller caliber and at a relatively close range (she'll lighten up when she's hitting the targets)
be supportive and compliment her on her shooting skills
stay away from silhouette targets so she does not associate guns with shooting people
take her out to dinner after the range (close on a really good note)
(c) women are more emotional while men tend to be more logical.
we see a handgun for what it is --- an awesome piece of engineering that also nurtures our basic instinct -- survival and protection..
while women (or some of them) tend to see a handgun as a means for promoting violence... (I'm from CA and I know we get crap for owning one!)
so try to steer the conversation on gun ownership away from the "media hype" and towards the values of gun ownership...
-definitely buy a gun safe (go as far as sharing the combination/key with her)
-keep a minimum amount of ammunition and loaded mags inside the house
-make it a point to bring her to the range regularly when you shoot as it helps to sell it to her "as an activity that both of you can do together -- QUALITY TIME"
-make her a part of the process -- go out and get a "his and hers" kind of thing...heck -- PINK MAGAZINES JUST FOR HER!!! (maybe a bit extreme but you get the point?)...shirts are the easiest and she'll be like putty in your hands afterwards...
Hope this helps....! My lady is a tough cookie but I eventually made her see the value of "my owning a gun" and she now always comes to me when I shoot (well at least to the trap range until my g34 comes in in about 2 weeks!)...
order the gun--dump her--get another girlfriend--problem solved.
Bill, when it comes to giving advice, timing is everything!
Originally Posted by bill111444
Having a gun safe is a good idea. Leaving your gun in a gun safe is like having a car and locking it in the garage....yes garages are made to house cars, but cars are not made to live in the garage.
I will not give you women advice because I have only been married 28 years so I still have no idea how they work. However women want a man who is a man. Women who don't will end up lonely. A man should always respect his women........he just doesn't have to respect everything she says.
Get your gun and ask her to sit down with you while you give it the Out of the box cleaning, while you are getting to know it ......so is she. Show her how it works and that it is just a gun. Others have suggested a trip to the range, I can't agree more. More women have become gun fans simply by putting a couple mags down range then anything else I know. If she sees you handle it with respect and you have control and comand of it, if she is rational at all she will she it can do no harm on its own. If she loves you she will know you are not buying it to cause harm but to shoot on occasion and for protection. Good Luck......
This is a sign of what will come in your relationship. However how you go about changing her mind says as much about you as her trying to tell you what you can and can not have does about her.
Now that's funny...
Originally Posted by recoilguy
this thread is almost a year old :P
My girlfriend was the one that talked me into getting off my butt and start the application process.
My wife is the same way. She did comprise and let me get a rifle last October and than in April she let me get a handgun which is in our room. She is not happy about it but she did comprimise. She did get pissed when I traded one of my bow's for another handgun 2 weeks ago. Said I can't have 3 guns inour house.
Last edited by DevilsJohnson; 10-23-2009 at 05:00 AM.
Thank you. Kind of you to say. Not everyone gets (or even likes) my often warped sense of humor. I try to see humor in things. I figure about 1/3 of my posts are humor (or attempted humor), and 1/3 are informative (or I hope they are). What about the other 1/3? Well, let's just say that the a**hole in me manifests itself pretty regularly.
Originally Posted by jimmy
By no means do I suggest you follow my lead.
Years ago when I was married. My wife told me "You are NOT bringing a GUN in to MY house"
Well the loan was in her name. But I was the one that did all the work building the fracking house. Floors, walls, dry wall, siding, trusses, floors on and on.
So I figured it was my blood sweat and tears that went in to building the house, I could bring a GUN in to MY house if I wanted.
And since I had been told I could not. I did.
Long story short. I still have the gun, but not the wife. Not because of the gun. But in the end. The gun has been with me through thick and thin, and the wife was not.
You have to do what you have to do. But don't let your girl friend be like the Government and tell you what you can and cant have.
I had ur problem........my NEW girlfriend loves my guns and cant wait to get her hands on her pink glock 26 lol
JFord, what's that latest? Hope it all worked out. Thankfully, I haven't had to deal with this.
JamesNM, I must admit, I enjoy your posts also. Thanks for the laughs!
Originally Posted by James NM
knox, YOU BETTER NOT DO THAT TO THE 26 I TRADED TO YOU!!!
Originally Posted by knoxrocks222
I know, caps, I really was shouting though.
Still loving the Springer!
Don't ask her if you can do anything. Your the man of the house, you let it be known. If she doesn't want to follow your rules, I'd tell her to find a pushover. Men these days are so worried about getting a piece of the pie after dinner so to speak they walk on egg shells. Make a path and if she follows, than shes a keeper. If she strays. Let her find another path. This is my 2 cents on the matter anyhow. Good luck with the issue.
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