Top Ten reasons a Gun is better than a Girlfriend/Wife
10. You can trade in your old 44 for a new 22.
9. You can have one gun at home and another when you're on the road.
8. If you admire a friend's gun and tell him so, he'll probably let you try it out.
7. One gun doesn't mind if you keep another gun for a backup.
6. Your gun stays with you even when you run out of ammo.
5. Guns don't take up much closet space.
4. Guns function normally every day of the month.
3. Your gun will never ask, "Do these new grips make me look fat?"
2. A gun doesn't mind when you go to sleep after using it.
1. You can buy a silencer for a gun!
hope every thing works out for you with the hand gun problem. for me i think if she doesnot like the hand gun now she will never like it..
well..I just I want to make a few points on this...
I looked at the original post...you are 21, so I am assuming that she is around that age...I am 41 and I can tell you that some people at that young age can make statements that don't make much sense..I take it as it can be directly related to that...I bought my first handgun about a year ago. I had several people scratch their heads. My girlfriend even said no she did not want me to have one..Alot of people may not understand things about the guns and about why you would want one and you also have to make every effort to make sure that you take the right steps in buying and owning a gun..it is a big responsibility...Guns scare people and they should...What you have is something that can be loaded and kill someone by grade school aged kid...A grade school aged kid is not likely to kill an adult in hand to hand combat, but if they have a loaded gun in their hands, they could kill anyone...
Also....not one person on this forum knows you or her (I assume) and none of us know if you have known her for a week or a day or 10 years. if you (like me) show signs of aggression during situations where you shouldn't, she may very well have a legitimate reason to fear you especially if you acquire a gun. What if family or friends of her had situations where someone was former military that went off and that put a fear into her about you (not sayng anything bad about you or ANYONE who is or was in the military)...Talking to her and getting all this info and getting a sense of the feelings/fears and finding a way to work through it is what you need to do..if you have known her for a short time and this is one of many issues that make you doubt being with her, then that is where you need to decide for yourself...but if you have known her and been with her for five years and feel everything is good and this is an issue that just popped up, YOU need to decide if it is worth working through or walking away...
If you think you are going to find someone who sees eye to eye on every issue and stance you take, good luck....if you feel that your thoughts and ways of looking at things are the only way and she better conform...good luck on that one too...
I am not taking anyones side on this...I feel that you want a gun and you want to keep it in your house for self protection of yourself and her. I feel that is a good thing and I agree that she will see it that way too in the end...Get her involved...talk to her about it..maybe try to find a course of training to take. Ask her to get involved with it too if she would like. people often take stances against things they fear because they know nothing or very little about it...
I will leave you with this thought...When I came to a point to buy my first handgun, I was convinced I was going to...My girlfriend was reluctant to share my enthusiasm, but...she is not my wife and she knew I was going to and we talked about it...I explained things to her....I was firm but non threatening about it....She now loves to go with me to watch me shoot and she will also shoot...She knows how the guns work and she knows how to handle and shoot them...it is something we share in and if you would have asked her a year ago she would have said she had no desire to shoot or learn anything about guns...but now she does not feel that way...
I have been watching this thread from the beginning and wondering if or how I should respond. Thanking God I have been married for 21+ years to the same woman who will go shooting, hunting, camping, clean the house, take care of the kids, picked me up when I was laid off after 21+ years at the same organization and ultimately be my best friend. We have been through the good times and the bad.
I believe Willy D has said it best so far.
We can give you ideas on how to introduce your GF to firearms, how to manage your relationship, etc. Ultimately, only you can make the decision what is good for you and your relationship with your GF.
I wish you luck and hope you can work it out.
It's not the irrational fear of guns that bothers me here. It's the irrational fear of you.
Sounds like you're outta luck, it's her house, her rules.
By the way, the right thing to do is not to just tell her how it's going to be.
i decided to let her read the thread.
ill be getting the handgun sometime soon.
If she is afraid of you snapping and killing her it won't matter if you have a gun, knife or golf club. My guess is she has been hearing for years that guns are dangerous and evil and if you have a gun the chances of you getting hurt are almost 100%.
This isn't a battle you can win in a short time. Things to point out is the slow police response time if you call 911. That you are properly trained on using firearms and you are more than happy to train her.
My wife started out with, "Not in the house. Lock 'em in a safe in the garage."
Then, one day, we got held up at gunpoint. He didn't get anything, nor did he harm us. But it certainly changed her point of view.
Now we have guns in the house. Loaded guns.
I carry every day. She has a concealed-carry permit too.
And she's become a pretty good short-range shot.
Him: Either you accept me having guns in the house or I'm leaving.
Her: Is that a promise?
Someone has already said that women are wired diffrently. A good deal of them have some kind of knee jerk reaction that guns of any kind have a will of their own and will shoot you when you least exspect it!
Anyway the best thing you can do is educate her gently. A gun safety class and some low stress time at the range is a good place to start. If you can get her passed the knee jerk fear you are half way home. If you can gently get her to see that a gun can empower her to protect herself you've done your job.
Good luck and take it slow.
I am jumping in a little late on this one but felt I had to say something. With regards to the suggestions that you go look for a new girlfriend, that is not very helpful advice in my opinion. To each his/her own I guess. If my wife told me she did not want guns in the house, and we somehow could not work out a compromise, I would get rid of the guns. My relationship with my wife is much more important than any item I own.
That being said, it sounds like your girlfriend is willing to listen and work something out. This whole thing might just turn out to be a great way to discover how the two of you can work through a disagreement. Having different points of view is half the fun of a healthy relationship, in my opinion.
You're a brave man!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by JFord.
Enjoy and keep the communication line with her open.
So, what did she think/say after reading the thread? Just curious.
Originally Posted by JFord.
So now, do you get to keep your new friends or not?
Originally Posted by JFord.
Originally Posted by BeefyBeefo
she upset/sad for little awhile because of the ppl telling me to leave her. but shes over it now.
Sounds like a strong woman, not a pushover, def. take her to the range. I think if you can get her to the range, empower her, and get her to understand that it s only for you guys protection she ll come around. Just hope she doesnt have to be like my wife, and be in a need and not have situation to understand.
Afraid of you snapping? that kind of fear makes me wonder how she can feel safe around you at all. I mean..you can pick up something and beat someone to death. I guess you'll need to put some foam on all the blunt objects around the house.
AS my Dad used to say a woman spends half her life looking for the perfect man then spends the other half trying to change them
I would think with your training that you would be a person that would put a person at ease handling a firearm.
If it was me I'd ask her if she would be willing to take a training course with you. Maybe that would help her with understanding that with proper training that a hand gun can be handled in a safe manner. I personally find that most of the people that have an irrational fear of guns stems from a lack of understanding about them.
There is some sound advice in this thread. I'm glad the others answered before I got a chance. I was going to suggest that you have a friend stage a break-in while you guys were asleep to demonstrate how useless the gun is when it's 3 rooms away, lol.
Originally Posted by X6StringerX
that might actually work.
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