It's not surprising that you found the little J-frame difficult to shoot well. They get recommended for novices all the time, but I think they are a poor choice for just about anyone who isn't an experienced shooter. Short sight radius, small sights, light weight, and heavy trigger add up to a gun that is very challenging to shoot well.
A bigger, heavier gun with a longer sight radius and better sights - and often a better trigger - is a much better choice. If you want a revolver for recreational shooting, definitely choose one of at least K-frame size, with a minimum 4" barrel.