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    I'm not married, nor do I have a g/f I've bought a gun for...but I think if you buy your wife a gun, much like you would a car, even if you paid for it, you bought it for her, so it's hers. That's not to say you shouldn't have a right to shoot her gun or drive her car, but you bought it for her, so it's hers. Santa Claus has brought me plenty of presents, and they're mine, not his.

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    Good concept in Joeshwa24's post, just in dire need of a few paragraphs.

    The firearms in my house are mine I suppose, but simply because I use them and can legally carry the handguns whereas she cannot. The long guns are primarily my interest, but I've often referred to my old rifle that she likes as "hers." Really doesn't matter.

    I suppose the mixer is ours too, but she makes so much better use of it than I do.

    I don't think I could work well in a marriage where there is "my" money and "your" money, expenses, etc. Too much complication.

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    That is something I consider my business.


    Yepper on that.

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    niadhf- Thanks? I think?

    Quote Originally Posted by MLB View Post
    Good concept in Joeshwa24's post, just in dire need of a few paragraphs.
    Ha... I typed in word and then cut and paste it and the Paragraphs for some reason didnít transfer. I thought ďEh no one will notice, this isnít a grammar testĒÖlol

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    When I'm talking to her, they're hers. When I'm posting here they get included in my count. Consistent? No. But I was involved in the purchase of them all (and I paid for them all), so I figure I can tell you guys how I really think. I don't think of her jewelry as mine, although I did pay for it. I think of that as an investment in marital harmony and preventing .... what's the legal phrase..."loss of consortia"?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joeshwa24 View Post
    Ok I am just going to through some psychological babble out here because its my nature and training and I have been actively doing marriage counseling for 5 years now so... When you get married one of the worst thing can do is keep YOUR stuff THEIR stuff. You are in a permanent relationship where the two of you have decided that youíre better off with one another than without. There is a big difference between maintaining individuality and maintaining ones right to his or her possessions. As we grow in our marriages we should begin to go through a process I call making the me, we. After a few years of healthy marriage you should stop using words like I and mine and start using words like We and our. In the area of fire arms there are two things that I see form a psychological point of view that come into effect. First, I donít think I have met a single couple that shoots together where the woman was the instigator of the sport. So typically we men tend to be the ones doing a lot of the teaching and nurturing of the sport in our families so we seam to have a greater sense or need for ownership of the sport. Thatís not a bad thing it means we care enough about our families to teach them to protect themselves and to draw them together for a singular activity. The Second thing I see from a psychological view relates to why we are typically the first to gravitate toward this sport. Whether you believe a Creator put it in us or itís a leftover from evolution men have a desire to protect and provide, and fire arms give us a way to do both so again we tend to want to take a lot of responsibility for our family and our own fire arms. I think the reason that women (my wife included) tend to let this happen is the same as the reasons we want it to happen, no matter how much our culture tries to fight it women have a deep desire to be taken care of. I donít think that makes them weaker by any stretch of the imagination, we simply have different roles built into our psyche. Thatís not to say that a woman canít do almost anything a man can do or visa versa.
    Damn... I feel like I jumped into a cold lake.

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    My wife and I actully joke about this. The dogs and kids are hers when they act up and she says the same to me. The following are mine and she agrees.

    My Guns
    My Motorcycle
    My ATV
    My Big Screen
    My PS3

    The only thing she actually uses or cares about is the TV.

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    I always separate them. How many hand guns do I have. 5.
    Wife has 2 & Mom has 2.

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    I'm just glad I can now post in this thread. I just got my first handgun and there is no mistaking that it is mine. My wonderful wife has no interest in sharing ownership of my gun. When I arrived home with it she asked where hers was and has made no bones about asserting full ownership of her gun that I'm about to buy her (should have it in the next few days). Some of you may think this is silly but I feel like a very lucky man that not only is my wife comfortable with me bringing a gun into our home but she enjoys shooting with me and cannot wait to get her own. Next comes CCW.

    BTW.. Mine is a 4" Compact XD45 and hers will be a Taurus PT111 9mm

    Ben

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    Quote Originally Posted by themayer78 View Post
    I'm just glad I can now post in this thread. I just got my first handgun and there is no mistaking that it is mine. My wonderful wife has no interest in sharing ownership of my gun. When I arrived home with it she asked where hers was and has made no bones about asserting full ownership of her gun that I'm about to buy her (should have it in the next few days). Some of you may think this is silly but I feel like a very lucky man that not only is my wife comfortable with me bringing a gun into our home but she enjoys shooting with me and cannot wait to get her own. Next comes CCW.

    BTW.. Mine is a 4" Compact XD45 and hers will be a Taurus PT111 9mm

    Ben
    Congratulations!

    Shootings always more fun when you get to do it with a buddy.

    And don't be suprised when she out-shoots you.

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    If my name is on the paper work at the time of purchase...it's mine.
    My wife really doesn't like guns around the house...but she is not against them either.So ,she lets me be with my hobby as long as they are safely locked away when not in use.

    Which reminds me...I need to get her out to the range...she's better competition then most of my "gun buddies". I am still in the process of trying to convince her to carry,since she works odd/late hours and she has to park a pretty long distance away.

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