For the Married Guys ...

**submoa** · 02-15-2008, 09:19 AM

Originally Posted by Joeshwa24

Ok I am just going to through some psychological babble out here because its my nature and training and I have been actively doing marriage counseling for 5 years now so... When you get married one of the worst thing can do is keep YOUR stuff THEIR stuff. You are in a permanent relationship where the two of you have decided that you’re better off with one another than without. There is a big difference between maintaining individuality and maintaining ones right to his or her possessions. As we grow in our marriages we should begin to go through a process I call making the me, we. After a few years of healthy marriage you should stop using words like I and mine and start using words like We and our. In the area of fire arms there are two things that I see form a psychological point of view that come into effect. First, I don’t think I have met a single couple that shoots together where the woman was the instigator of the sport. So typically we men tend to be the ones doing a lot of the teaching and nurturing of the sport in our families so we seam to have a greater sense or need for ownership of the sport. That’s not a bad thing it means we care enough about our families to teach them to protect themselves and to draw them together for a singular activity. The Second thing I see from a psychological view relates to why we are typically the first to gravitate toward this sport. Whether you believe a Creator put it in us or it’s a leftover from evolution men have a desire to protect and provide, and fire arms give us a way to do both so again we tend to want to take a lot of responsibility for our family and our own fire arms. I think the reason that women (my wife included) tend to let this happen is the same as the reasons we want it to happen, no matter how much our culture tries to fight it women have a deep desire to be taken care of. I don’t think that makes them weaker by any stretch of the imagination, we simply have different roles built into our psyche. That’s not to say that a woman can’t do almost anything a man can do or visa versa.

Damn... I feel like I jumped into a cold lake.

**Silly** · 02-24-2008, 07:09 PM

My wife and I actully joke about this. The dogs and kids are hers when they act up and she says the same to me. The following are mine and she agrees.

My Guns
My Motorcycle
My ATV
My Big Screen
My PS3

The only thing she actually uses or cares about is the TV.

**longtooth** · 02-24-2008, 09:09 PM

I always separate them. How many hand guns do I have. 5.
Wife has 2 & Mom has 2.

**themayer78** · 02-25-2008, 12:25 AM

I'm just glad I can now post in this thread. I just got my first handgun and there is no mistaking that it is mine. My wonderful wife has no interest in sharing ownership of my gun. When I arrived home with it she asked where hers was and has made no bones about asserting full ownership of her gun that I'm about to buy her (should have it in the next few days). Some of you may think this is silly but I feel like a very lucky man that not only is my wife comfortable with me bringing a gun into our home but she enjoys shooting with me and cannot wait to get her own. Next comes CCW.

BTW.. Mine is a 4" Compact XD45 and hers will be a Taurus PT111 9mm

Ben

**Wandering Man** · 02-25-2008, 07:34 AM

Originally Posted by themayer78

I'm just glad I can now post in this thread. I just got my first handgun and there is no mistaking that it is mine. My wonderful wife has no interest in sharing ownership of my gun. When I arrived home with it she asked where hers was and has made no bones about asserting full ownership of her gun that I'm about to buy her (should have it in the next few days). Some of you may think this is silly but I feel like a very lucky man that not only is my wife comfortable with me bringing a gun into our home but she enjoys shooting with me and cannot wait to get her own. Next comes CCW.

BTW.. Mine is a 4" Compact XD45 and hers will be a Taurus PT111 9mm

Ben

Congratulations!

Shootings always more fun when you get to do it with a buddy.

And don't be suprised when she out-shoots you.

WM

**hawcer** · 02-25-2008, 01:52 PM

If my name is on the paper work at the time of purchase...it's mine.

My wife really doesn't like guns around the house...but she is not against them either.So ,she lets me be with my hobby as long as they are safely locked away when not in use.

Which reminds me...I need to get her out to the range...she's better competition then most of my "gun buddies".

I am still in the process of trying to convince her to carry,since she works odd/late hours and she has to park a pretty long distance away.

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